Chasing or dating a bad boy almost always turns out bad! So why are women attracted to bad boys? Is it the thrill of the pursuit, the triumph of winning the seemingly unattainable, the female desire to tame the wild man or is it the feeling of security in the midst of a strong, confident and rebellious man?
“The answer lies in the difference in genders” says Los Angeles based Human Behavior & Relationship Expert, Dr. Patrick Wanis. “Ultimately, women are nurturers and fall in love with a man’s potential; they want him to grow and change!”
Dr. Wanis identifies and reveals the primary motivations:
- Men fall in love with a woman the way she is, hoping she won’t change or even age
- Women are instinctively nurturers; women fall in love with a man’s potential and try to change him; women expect a man to evolve, grow and change
- When a woman sees a ‘bad boy,’ she thinks she can turn him into a ‘good boy’ – the desire to tame the wild
- The boy who is unattainable or off limits also offers some women the thrill-seeking trap of ‘forbidden love’ (think Romeo & Juliet)
- The pursuit of the unattainable or challenging man sparks the Dopamine rush and reward system – anticipatory and emotional excitement that releases feel good chemicals in the body
- Confident but rebellious men offer women a false sense of security
- Unresolved emotional and psychological issues can also drive women to pursue bad boys, guarded and emotionally unavailable boys (e..g. low self-esteem, feelings of being unloveable; a woman who fears rejection or intimacy will pursue a man who is not truly available thus offering her an excuse when he flees; a woman who seeks security via control will pursue a man who is dependent on her)
Also read the article where Patrick Wanis PhD answers readers questions and reveals the “Scientific & psychological reasons women love bad boys”: https://patrickwanis.com/blog/scientific-psychological-reasons-women-love-bad-boys/
And watch the interview Patrick Wanis PhD gives to Australia’s The Morning TV Show:
Originally from Australia, Patrick Wanis Ph.D., is a Celebrity Life-Coach, Author, Expert in Human Behavior & Relationships and creator of SRTT Therapy with a PhD in Health Psychology. Wanis has appeared on FOX News, MSNBC, Extra, Issues with Jane Velez Mitchell, TruTV’s In Session, the Montel Williams Show, Mike and Juliet, Cosmo, Rolling Stone, InTouch Weekly, Women’s Health, Men’s Health, Dating on Demand, E! TV, Vh1, CNN.com, MSN.com, Date.com, Matchmaker.com, NY Daily Mail, NY Post, Vogue Australia, FHM, etc. WGN Chicago and Syndicated TV show, “The Daily Buzz” anointed him “The Woman Expert” and FOX News pronounced him “A voice for women.” CNN.com turned to Wanis for expert insights and analysis when Michael Jackson died. Over five million people have read Wanis’ books in English and Spanish. www.patrickwanis.com
Anointed “The Woman Expert” by WGN Chicago, Patrick Wanis PhD is a renowned Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert who developed SRTT therapy (Subconscious Rapid Transformation Technique) and is teaching it to other practitioners. Wanis’ clientele ranges from celebrities and CEOs to housewives and teenagers. CNN, BBC, FOX News, MSNBC & major news outlets worldwide consult Wanis for his expert insights and analysis on sexuality, human behavior and women’s issues. Wanis is the first person ever to do hypnotherapy on national TV – on the Montel Williams show.